The Gift of Being Single
I got this from Alynn. Sorry girl, I do not share most of the sentiments of whoever wrote this.

[in purple are my comments]

Too often people want what they want, or think they want at the moment, which is usually "happiness" right now. The irony of their impatience is that only by learning to wait, and by willingness to accept the bad with the good do we usually attain those things that are truly worthwhile. I have a blessing which is sometimes seen as a curse. I am blessed with the gift of being single.

[It's not really "happiness" that I want. I am happy naman eh! True love talaga lang ang hanap ko.]

For most of us twenty something young professionals, or simply single people it seems the world has already come up with its own set of expectations on how we should live life. The world expects us to finish school in our early twenties, get a job, and find the love of our lives by the time we reach our mid-twenties, marry and have kids. But the thing is, not everyone sees their dreams come true in the same way. In this article, I shall try to endeavor to change the way the world looks at being single.

[What's wrong with setting expectations? These are the things that will make life more exciting and fulfilling rather than just being 'contented'. I refuse to settle with the mediocrities in life. Continuously striving to reach the high expectations that I have set for myself and enjoying it along the way is what keeps me going.]

The Art of Contentment. For most of us, being single it will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I'm sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one.

[okay... I somehow agree with that one. except on the contentment portion]

Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you're willing to see it through. It means you don't walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have.

[I absolutely DO NOT BELIEVE IN CONTENTMENT. Never, never, never. And what is so bad in walking away when things get tough? In life, it is okay to walk away from something that hurt,harm, or make you feel blue. You do not always have to face it to 'prove' that you're strong. Walking away sometimes mean that you're just smarter... and do not need to prove anything to anyone.]

Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn't mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.

[sige na nga. i-justify natin ang mahabang paghihintay sa true love. but i do mind the waiting... dahil I don't believe nga in the art of contentment. and as far as this article goes, I am not convinced even for a single moment to be contented.]

A Time to Know Yourself Better. Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interests and passions without having to ask another person's approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be.

[I know myself already... tama na please... hahaha]

Allow yourself to surprise you.

[Well, I never stop surprising myself and the people around me naman eh. Di ko nga maisip kung pano ko nakakayanan ang mga pinag-gagagawa ko sa buhay eh.]

Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you're still romantically unattached. It's all in the mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone.

[It's not a waste of time! I'm not a drama queen for nothing... And don't give me this advice... I know more than you... (to whoever wrote this article). If anyone in this world who knows how to party and enjoy time with friends and family --- that would be me!]

Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don't know who and what you really are?

[I know na nga diba! And I know what I want. Pero bottomline, single pa nga rin ako. And I'm getting impatient and irritated just reading this article. Hahaha. I will really not embrace the art of contentment. Utang na loob...]

A Choice between Good and Best. Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it's between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won't hear music, or feel magic to know who's best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn't need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter.

[Hay, ayan... I agree with this.]

Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us. Goodluck...

[Mabuti naman this ended nicely. Otherwise, I might hunt for whoever wrote this. LOL.]

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Comments

from  Jane Bio at November 25, 2005
lara, katawa mga comments mo.. defensive! wala ng paliwanag pa hehhe. basta ako, the time i am not looking anymore, biglang dumating! tapos, after all the heartaches, God gave me a super duper guy who is madly in love with me. katuwa. but i also believe that to get what you want, you have to make it happen. that's the challenge and what flips life to be more exciting. happy true love hunting or waiting hehhe.
 

from  teamclear at November 29, 2005
i can NOT believe some writer will ACTUALLY analyze why 20-something working women are single!

i hope the writer's a man. that way, we all know one MAN gives a shit about us single women... and im still keeping my fingers crossed that man isn't gay.

i did NOT, in anyway, mean to sourgrape. :-P

the ever smashing ana
 

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